We all carry two ancient fears that falsely shape our sense of safety and belonging in the world: the fear of being abandoned or left out; and the fear of losing our individuality. To mitigate the fear of abandonment, we strive to fit in by taking on the beliefs of a particular group (family, friends, political or spiritual affiliations). Alternatively, if we fear the loss of our selfhood we take on the identity of the rebel or the outsider as a way to feel safe. Whether we fear losing the safety of the group or fear losing the safety of our separateness, these polarized patterns result in conflict and disconnection based on an “us vs them” belief system.
True belonging is the inner journey to fully embrace our identity as both a unique human being having a singular experience, and as a spiritual being having a unified experience. This integration of our human-divine identity frees us from the fears of being abandoned, or of being consumed. This is our homecoming.